When John baptized Jesus the Father said, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.”  The same thing He said when you were baptized.

Baptizing My Granddaughter–Holy Orders Meets Parenthood

On Sunday I had the privilege of baptizing my third grandchild.  (Number 4 will not be baptized but that’s a subject for another day.  Suffice it to say that it’s very disappointing to her grandparents and other family members.)  There are many honors that are reserved for priests and bishops, but baptizing your own grandchildren is all the more special because it’s something that only deacons can (normally) do.  Of course there are exceptions.  There are a handful of married priests who may have grandchildren, but in the normal course of things, deacons are the only Catholic clergy who get to perform this wonderful sacrament on their own flesh and blood.

As thrilling as Sunday was, there was a certain amount of fear and trepidation, too.  Jesus told us that a prophet isn’t without honor except in his own town.  I’m no prophet, that’s for sure.  But family members know a side of us that others don’t, which makes it kind of hard to preach to them.  I was “Dad” first, long before there was any thought of becoming a minister.  In fact, when my kids were growing up, I’m sure they wondered if their father was even a Catholic.  I wasn’t the best role model.

So what do you say to fulfill your obligations both as parent and grandparent, and as ordained minister?   After a lot of thought and a lot of prayer, I did what I normally do.  I decided to let the Holy Spirit take over.  I walked into church with no notes and a minimal outline of what I was going to say.  As usual, the Spirit came through for me, at least I think He did.

I took a break on Saturday afternoon and took a look at my facebook page.  I posted that I was having a hard time with the baptism homily.  My daughter-in-law commented back “We’re counting on you.”  That was the answer to my prayer.  They were counting on me.  They had chosen me to be the minister of their daughter’s first sacrament.  They weren’t looking for a softball.  They wanted me to give them my best stuff!  All of a sudden, I saw this situation in a whole new light.   

I love my kids and couldn’t be more proud of all of them.  And there’s nothing Iwant more for them thanto spend eternity in the presence of God.    Jan and Ipray for that daily.  As I said, at their age I wasn’t the best Catholic in the world.  So I hope and pray that they will get back to regular reception of the sacraments eventually, just like I did.

So, what did I tell them?  Essentially I told them that I’ve spent my life trying to make their lives as easy as possible.  I’ve always tried to give them the best that I could afford, sometimes even better than I could afford, like twelve years of Catholic education.  (Four kids x twelve years = forty eight years total.  Ouch!)  But there’s one thing I can’t make easy for them, and that’s their salvation.  It’s entirely up to them.  Like I said, Jan and I pray for them every day, but this is one time when they’re going to have to do it themselves.

My son and daughter-in-law, along with another son (the godfather) were promising to see that Morgan would be raised in the faith.  They weren’t promising me, they were promising God.  And that’s not something to be taken lightly.  My kids have made a lot of promises to me that somehow didn’t work out.  I’ve done the same to them.  But when you make a promise to God, the stakes are quite a bit higher.

I admitted that I’ve been lax in following up on their brother and sister’s baptism, but that I would be much more vigilant in the future.  And I intend to keep that promise.

Being given the privilege to baptize my own grandchildren, is too great a gift to squander.  I have to be more vigilant in my duty to see that the sacrament is kept alive in their, and their parents and godparents, hearts.

Thanks, Jennifer and Mike for counting on me.  I hope I never let you down.

PS, I gave a homily on the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord that I use as a handout for baptismal preparation.  You can download a copy of it on the Resources page of the blog.

The Baptism of the Lord

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Today we celebrate the Baptism of the Lord by John the Baptist. We’ve heard the story lots of times. John’s baptizing at the river and Jesus gets in line along with everyone else. But, why? He was the Son of God. He came down from heaven and would soon go back. Why did He need to baptized? The answer is that He didn’t. Jesus didn’t need to be baptized, but you and I needed Him to be baptized. Saint Maximus of Turin, one of the Church Fathers, wrote “Christ is baptized, not to be made holy by the water, but to make the water holy.”

If you remember your grade school science you know that water evaporates, forms clouds, and returns to earth. The cycle repeats itself over and over. The wind blows the clouds so that the water that evaporates in one place comes down somewhere else. Eventually every drop of water on earth is connected to every other drop. When Jesus made the water of the Jordan holy, he made all water holy.

Obviously Jesus thought baptism was very important. In John’s Gospel He said, “Unless a man is reborn in water and the Holy Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.” In Matthew’s Gospel he tells the Apostles, “Go, make disciples of all nations, and baptize them in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.” Baptism is our response to Christ.

Here’s what the Church says about the three sacraments of initiation, baptism, confirmation, and first communion, straight from the baptism rite.: “Through the sacraments of Christian initiation men and women are freed from the power of darkness. With Christ they die, are buried, and rise again.” Notice it says “with Christ.” Just like Maximus said, Jesus had to be baptized first. “They receive the Spirit of adoption which makes them God’s sons and daughters and, with the entire people of God, they celebrate the memorial of the Lord’s death and resurrection.”

Here’s what the book says specifically about baptism: “Through baptism men and women are incorporated into Christ. They are formed into God’s people, and they obtain forgiveness of all their sins. They are raised from their natural human condition to the dignity of adopted children. They become a new creation through water and the Holy Spirit. Hence they are called, and are indeed, the children of God.”

Jesus died and rose from the dead to defeat death, to save all of us from our sins. But what He does today makes it possible for us individually to be one of his people. Baptism is the beginning of our journey of faith. Jesus’ seemingly unnecessary decision to be baptized by John, someone “not worthy to loosen the thongs of his sandals”, is actually the beginning of OUR journey of faith.

Personally I was baptized at the age of twenty so I do remember receiving the sacrament, especially how hard it was for my godfather to hold me over the baptismal font. But for most of us, christened as babies, it’s good that we celebrate today to remind us of the promises our parents made for us. This is what we ask the parents who present their child for the sacrament. “You have asked to have your child baptized. In doing so you are accepting the responsibility of training him in the practice of the faith. It will be your duty to bring him up to keep God’s commandments as Christ taught us, by loving God and our neighbor. Do you clearly understand what you are undertaking? At this point the parents answer, “We do.”

Then we ask the godparents if they’re ready to help the parents in their duty as Christian parents. They answer “We do.” Then the deacon or the priest says “The Christian community welcomes you with great joy. In its name I claim you for Christ our Savior by the sign of the cross on your forehead, and invite your parents and godparents to do the same.”

Then we have a reading or two, maybe a homily, some prayers and then the actual baptism. But before we bring out the water, we ask the parents to renounce sin and to renew their own baptismal promises. We tell the parents, “On your part, you must make it your constant care to bring her up in the practice of the faith. See that the divine life which God gives her is kept safe from the poison of sin, to grow always stronger in her heart.

If your faith makes you ready to accept this responsibility, renew now the vows of your own baptism. Reject sin; profess your faith in Jesus Christ. This is the faith of the Church. This is the faith in which this child is about to be baptized.”

Then the baptism takes place, we say a couple of more prayers, the family takes a lot of pictures then everyone adjourns for a nice lunch.

Even if you don’t remember your own baptism, you probably remember your kids’ or your grandkids’. Maybe you’ve been a godparent a time or two. So you’re probably wondering why I’m giving you this baptismal instruction. As usual, I’m taking the scenic route to make a point. Also, I want to make a disclaimer. If I’ve baptized your child and you’re sitting here in church today, what I’m about to say doesn’t apply to you. You get it. You’re following up on the promises you made that day for yourself and your baby. Congratulations!

But often, too often, after the baby is baptized, after the parents and godparents have said they clearly understand what they’re undertaking; after they promise to raise him or her in the faith, after everyone has renewed their baptismal promises, WE NEVER SEE ANY OF THEM AGAIN! Like I said, there are a lot of exceptions which give all of us hope. And sometimes we baptize kids whose grandparents are in the parish but who live somewhere else. They want to have the kids baptized in their home parish. My son and daughter-in-law are in that group. I’ve baptized my two grandkids here, but their parish is in O’fallon, MO. It’s understandable that that happens sometimes. I’m not talking about them either.

The point I’m trying to make is this: Baptism is a big deal. It’s a big enough deal that Jesus had Himself baptized, even though He didn’t really need it. He did it for us. But too many of us don’t take it seriously. A lot of babies get baptized because the grandparents insist on it, even if mom and dad haven’t seen the inside of a church since their wedding day, if then.

Some parents don’t really have a clue of why they’re doing it, but they know that they were baptized, and their friends kids are getting baptized, so they’d better call the church. After all, christening pictures are always cute and they don’t want to be left out. A lot of the time they’re more interested in what the baby’s going to wear, sometimes something really old that they wore for their own baptism, what they’re going to have for lunch, and those all-important pictures.

The Church says that parents are the first and most important teachers and I agree with that 100%. It’s up to us to bring our kids up in the faith. As a lot of us know, we aren’t always successful. Sometimes they go their own way. Then it’s up to us to pray them back. But I promise, if we don’t lead them by our example, taking them to mass every Sunday, taking them to PSR or Catholic school, if we don’t pray with them and for them, then our chances of success are a big, fat zero.

But, even if they are no small people in your life, it’s good to remember our own baptismal promises. To remember that we rejected Satan and all his works and empty promises. It’s good to think about the words of the Creed that we’ll recite in just a few minutes. Not to just recite it along with everyone else, but to actually think about what we’re saying.

We’re talking about our immortal souls and the immortal souls of our children. Jesus did much more than His share to save us, but we have to do our part, too. Remember what God the Father said in today’s Gospel. “You are my beloved Son. With you I am well pleased.” I don’t know about you, bit I’d like to hear those words myself when I meet Him face to face.